4/1/2026 - Week 12 / Meeting 20: Self-transformation / Mindfulness

 HOOK

 

What attracts and arouses us and can guide our curiosity.

 

Are we only attracted to people we want?

No. If it were that clean, dating would be a lot less chaotic and therapists would be out of work. Attraction runs on a few different engines at cone, and "what you want" is only one of them. Sometimes it is not even the loudest. 

Here is what is actually in the mix:

1. Conscious desire (the story you tell yourself)

This is the "I want a grounded, kind, emotionally available partner" layer. Values, goals, lifestyle alignment. The part that sounds good in a podcast.

2. Biological pull (your body voting without asking you)

Hormones, pheromones, immune system compatibility. Your nervous system clocking safety or arousal in milliseconds. This is why someone can be "perfect on paper" and your body just... shrugs.

3. Familiarity (your past running the show)

You are often drawn to what feels known, not what's actually good. If chaos, inconsistency, or emotional distance were normalized early on your system may read that as "home." Not because you want it, but because you recognize it.

4. Unmet needs (the hunger underneath the choice)

You might be attracted to someone who represents something you didn't get: validation, power, safety, intensity, being chosen.

It is less"I want them" and more "I want what being with them might finally give me."

5. Polarity and tension (contrast not comfort)

Sometimes attraction is built on difference. You're controlled, they are wild . You are grounded, the are chaotic. That tension can feel electric ... right up until it becomes exhausting.

6. Projection (you falling for your own imagination)

You don't just see them. You fell in who they could be.

Half the attraction is a future version of them that may never show up.

 Conclusion:

So, no, you are not only attracted to what your want.

You are attracted to your body recognizes, what your history rehearses, and what your psyche is trying to resolve.

The real poser move isn't trying to control, resist or stamp out attraction. It is learning to decode it so you are not blindly, automatically following it like it is true. Attraction and arousal are persuasive, but they are not always intelligent.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Unit: Self-transformation

Theme: Mindfulness

 

Introduction

 

Broadly explained, mindfulness is a meditational practice that allows us to remain emotionally, psychologically and mentally healthy. Psychologically speaking, mindfulness allows the empath loner to engage in an act of self-recovery. For the regular person mindfulness is a tool for the integration of the shadow. Borrowing from Jung, the shadow is "everything we tend to deny in ourselves, the capacity for aggression, selfishness and coldness." (min. 13:17) For the therapist mindfulness is an exercise on how to avoid social manipulation and the need to appear as a good person, to prioritize the authentic relationship with the client.

 

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Learning Objectives 

• Understand the concept of mindfulness
  
• Explain how mindfulness relates to self-transformation
  
• Gain an awareness of the importance of mindfulness for Dance Movement Therapy
  
• Experience mindfulness by following 

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Check In

 

 

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Main Lesson 

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(41:52 - End)

Their Quiet Power

 

Mindfulness allows the therapist to develop quietness, density and self-regulation. It moves the person to the center of his/her own reality, their own psyche. This creates integration and containment (the ability to feel an internal tension, an emotion, an impulse, a thought), holding it inside without acting it out. This gives the empath, in this case the therapist, an internal power based on non-reaction. Mindfulness allows the therapist to develop neutrality, which the absence of effort that allows the therapist to listen, see and heal the client.

Question 1

 

Using the concept of the empath loner, in which way can the practice of mindfulness help the therapist to be more effective. 

 

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Concept Addressed:

Mindfulness: 

It is a way to maintain activity-dependent plasticity, mental health and longevity, as well as a way to transform one's mental habits in a positive way through meta-awareness. Meta-awareness is being aware of where our attention is and where it is going at every moment. Mindfulness acts as a wedge that opens up one's mind, providing insight into the mental habits that arise over and over again. When practiced regularly, mindfulness opens one's mind into wisdom, which is the direct experience with one's mental habits. Mindfulness allows awareness and wisdom to work together. allowing less time spent in selfing (a string of moment to moment experiences that can be broken down into perception, sensory awareness and evaluation). This string of moments sustains one's self-conditioning and self-perpetuating mental habits and dispositions that inform one's awareness, reason why it is important to avoid it through mindfulness. 

Mindfulness as Practice: 

Mindfulness is a very simple form of meditation that was little known in the West until recently. It focuses on becoming aware of one’s incoming thoughts and feelings and accepting them, but not attaching or reacting to them. While, it sounds simple, it’s easier said than done. It’s something we learn to master by doing it regularly. This is because we must learn how to remove eight obstacles that come from our attitudes to be able to “be mindful.”

 

 

 

Questions 1, 2 & 3

 1. Please summarize the main aspects of mindfulness.

 2. Explain what mindfulness, as a practice, entails?

 

3.  Back to the video above (min. , how can mindfulness help the therapist to retrieve his/her own projections?

 

 

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  9 Attitudes

                                         

mindfulness: moment to moment awareness

 

1. beginner's mind: a lovely orientation to bring to the present moment, always fresh, always new. Opposite to the mind of the expert, It has the virtue of looking at things as if it were the first time.

2. non-judging: the awareness of bringing to the present moment non-judgmentally by recognize it in relationship to our experience with discernment, clarity and wisdom getting rid of the unhealthy habits of mind.

3. acceptance: the act of recognizing that things are the way they are without forcing them to be what they are not by applying the wisdom and the knowing where to stand. This is a powerful attitude that creates healing.

4. letting go: the opposite of clinging or grasping. It is reminding us that it is possible to let go and push away those things we do not want as others arise that we want. It is allowing things to be as they are. The breath helps us to realize it, because every time we breath in, we have to let go.

5. trust: trusting the natural wisdom of the body and how beautiful supports life. We trust that the airs comes in and out. We trust the metabolism of the body in all its complexity. The more we bring trust to ourselves, the more we can bring trust to our relationships, out environment. This trust is developed with practice.

6. patience: intentionally cultivating patience by recognizing that things unfold in their own way. It is profoundly healing and restoring be not hurrying or forcing things to happen. There is a sense of wisdom associated with it.

7. non-striving: allowing things to be as they are. Realizing that whatever is already here is enough. It does not mean you wont get things done, it means allowing things to be in their own time.

8. gratitude: being alive should not be taken for granted. Bringing gratitude to the present moment. All our organs are working. We take for granted many things.

9. generosity: the power of giving yourself to life. Giving joy to others and enhancing interconnectedness.

 

Mindfulness and heartfulness are the same. In eastern languages heart and mind are the same word. 

 

Question 4, 5 & 6

 

4. Back to Video 1 (min. 50:33), how does mindfulness help the therapist to achieve discernment?

5. Why is discernment import in establishing a functional therapeutic relationship? 

6. Discernment might be the point of intersection between mindfulness and DMT. Explain 

 

                     

 

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   Mindful Movement

 

 Mindful movement is a serious of postures that are meant to allow the practitioner to bring attention to body experience, bot in motion and stillness. The work acknowledges the possible body limitations through the postures one cannot achieve. Alternatively, we can imagine ourselves in the posture.

 

Question 7

 

In which way do you think mindfulness and mindful movement intersect?

 

 

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A Note to Remember

 

 When practiced regularly, mindfulness opens one's mind into wisdom, which is the direct experience with one's mental habits. 

 

 "Our life is shaped by our mind. for we become what we think."

 Dhammapada, Twin verses p. 101

 

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Case Study

 Video

  Transforming the Self through Mindfulness

 

Question 8

 Write your reflection about this presentation.

 Summary

Here, Cognitive Neuroscientist, David Vago presents a case study on a group of women diagnosed with fibromyalgia, a chronic pain disorder associated with widespread muscular tenderness, chronic fatigue and other clinical symptoms. These patients had a high level of anxiety and fear associated with their pain. When they were given mindful training there was remarkable improvement of their symptoms. What was the mechanism that made possible this clinical improvement? 

 

He gave these patients a behavioral task, which was how they payed attention to pain related words at the non-conscious perceptual level and the more conscious level of processing. The words were shown to them for 100 milliseconds. They did not have a lot of time for processing the words consciously, but it could be observed whether or not they looked towards or away from the words. At 500 milliseconds, they did have time to process the words consciously and there could be observed whether they got stuck, thinking and ruminating upon the words. 

 

He found two main differences between those who were exposed to mindful training and those who were not. Those who were untrained avoided those pain related words at the non-conscious perceptual level. Those who were trained in mindfulness looked towards the words suggesting that they had less fear and avoidance related behavior towards their pain. The untrained group also had the tendency tor ruminate at the later stages of processing, where those trained in mindfulness were able to see the word, let it go and complete the task more readily.

This results demonstrate that mindful awareness has the ability to improve our mental habits of attention at both the conscious and non-conscious levels. The more one meditates, the more one activates these brain regions (frontopolar cortex, dorsal anterior cingulate cortex and the anterior insula) . The more one meditates, the more protected these regions are from age related atrophy. All human brains begin to shrink after age 20, but meditation protects them. One other region that decreases in activation is the posterior cingulate cortex, which is associated with self-reflection and ruminatination.

 Question 9

Reflect on your own experience. 

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Activity

 

Experience a guided walking meditation using mindful walking by following the directions in the video below. Declutter The Mind is an app that will teach you how to meditate, help you form the habit of a regular practice, and expand your mind.

As you walk, pay attention to the sensations of the body. How do your feet feel? How do the other muscles of your body compensate for changes in balance? Note how your arms swing as you walk.

Become more aware of your surroundings, not just practically (I must avoid the puddle or mail the letter on the way), but with an open mind, enjoying the immediacy of the sights, sounds, and smells. Open up your senses.

 

 

Mindful Walking Meditation (20 Minute Guided Practice)

 

 

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Glossary

 

activity-dependent plasticity: This is the function by which the brain is continuously modified to the 150 trillion cell to cell synaptic connections that are made in response to one's own every day experiences.

mindful awareness: paying attention in a way that is continually watchful and discerning for what is arising and passing in our minds and in the external world.

 

Dhammapada: a collection of sayings of the Buddha in verse form and one of the most widely read and best known Buddhist scriptures.

 

selfing: a string of moment to moment processing sustaining our mental habits and dispositions that are self-conditioning and self-perpetuating through repetitions continually informing our sense of awareness, calling our memories from the past to make predictions about the future.

 

moment: a process of perception, sensory awareness and evaluation

 

meta-awareness: mindfulness based skill of mental habits such as awareness of where our attention is and where is going at any moment.

awareness: the access or wedge to open up our minds providing insights into the mental habits that arise again and again, which is inserted deeply into our minds. (Andrew Olendzki, Tricycle Magazine, 2005)

wisdom: the direct experience with our mental habits. For instance, the sensory awareness of one's body when being angry, which means the tightness, the clenched fists, the impulse and readiness to act. 

 

Fibromyalgia: a chronic (long-lasting) disorder that causes pain and tenderness throughout the body, as well as fatigue and trouble sleeping. Scientists do not fully understand what causes it, but people with the disorder have a heightened sensitivity to pain.

 

neuro-imaging-first-person-introspective-method: a neuro-phenomenological approach to mapping the meditative mind to identify the brain networks and systems of functioning that are supporting mindfulness-based practices.

frontopolar cortex: the most anterior part of the brain, right behind the forehead. It is also the most highly evolved part of the brain responsible for supporting meta-awareness.

 

 

dorsal anterior cingulate cortex:  (dACC) is an enigmatic structure located on the medial wall of the cerebral cortex. It is associated with executive control, learning, adjustment, economic choice, and self-control.

 

 

anterior insula: The anterior insula processes a person's sense of disgust both to smells and to the sight of contamination and mutilation — even when just imagining the experience. This associates with a mirror neuron-like link between external and internal experiences.

 

 

frontoparietal control network:  the work of the frontopolar cortex, dorsal anterior cingulate cortex and the anterior insula, together, allow oneself to be aware of one's body sensations and to flexibly switch between internal mental processing and thinking of the outside world. The more one meditates, the more one activates these brain regions. The more one meditates, the more protected these regions are from age related atrophy. All human brains begin to shrink after age 20, but meditation protects them.

 

posterior-cingulate-cortex: The posterior cingulate cortex (PCC) is the caudal part of the cingulate cortex, located posterior to the anterior cingulate cortex. This is the upper part of the "limbic lobe". The cingulate cortex is made up of an area around the midline of the brain. Surrounding areas include the retrosplenial cortex and the precuneus. Cytoarchitectonically the posterior cingulate cortex is associated with Brodmann areas 23 and 31. The PCC forms a central node in the default mode network of the brain. It has been shown to communicate with various brain networks simultaneously and is involved in diverse functions. Along with the precuneus, the PCC has been implicated as a neural substrate for human awareness in numerous studies of both the anesthetized and vegetative (coma) states. Imaging studies indicate a prominent role for the PCC in pain and episodic memory retrieval. Increased size of the ventral PCC is related to a decline in working memory performance. The PCC has also been strongly implicated as a key part of several intrinsic control networks.

 

 

 

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Journaling

 

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Sources

 

Sutton, Jeremy (2020). Mindful Walking and Walking Meditation: A Restorative Practice. https://positivepsychology.com/mindful-walking/
 

Why mindfulness is gaining popularity in our frantic world.  https://bia.ca/why-mindfulness-is-gaining-popularity-in-our-frantic-world/

 

 

 

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Students' Work 

 

Students Create an outline of the presentation and post it Discussion Board.